Did you hear they broke up? He stood me up. Are you hitting on me? Today you'll learn 16 phrasal verbs you can use every day to talk about relationships, dating, and love. Welcome back to JForrest English. Of course, I'm Jennifer. Now let's get started. Remember, I asked, are you hitting on me? Let's start with this phrasal verb to hit on someone. This means that you're showing romantic interest. So when I asked you are you hitting on me, I'm asking you if you are romantically interested in me.

Now maybe I'm asking this because you were making intense eye contact, or you were complimenting me, or just because you always are very close to me. So I want to know, are you hitting on me? Keep in mind though, that many women use this in a negative way. I left the party because some guy kept hitting on me. Or maybe if a friend asked you, do you think Mark likes me? You can say he was totally hitting on you. She was totally hitting on you. Just know that to use this phrasal verb to hit on someone, it sounds more direct and aggressive than to flirt with someone. So maybe you can say you were totally

flirting with the delivery guy. So here flirt is not a phrasal verb, it's the verb flirt. And when you specify the someone you do use the preposition with. Don't worry about taking these notes. I summarize everything in a free lesson PDF. You can find the link in the description. Let's talk about to ask someone out. This means to invite someone on a date. Now a date is a romantic outing, so dinner and a movie. But you can go to dinner and a movie with a friend. A date is always romantic. So maybe you say, he finally asked her out after

weeks of flirting with her during lunch breaks. So he finally said, do you want to go to the movies on Friday night? Or maybe you say, I'm not surprised he asked you out. He was definitely hitting on you at the party. Or maybe as encouragement to your friend, you say if you like him, stop waiting and just ask him out. You like him so much, why don't you just ask him out? Let's move on to check someone out. This is look at someone romantically because you find them attractive. So maybe she tried to be discreet so act in a way that wasn't obvious.

She tried to be discreet but she kept checking him out at the gym so she kept looking at him as he was working out at the gym. Now maybe the gym guy notices and says I noticed you were checking me out. You were looking at me romantically. How about we grab a drink tonight, You were checking me out the other day and then you instantly text your friend and say Oh my God the hot gym guy finally asked me out. I've been sending him signals for weeks now. To send someone's signals. That's not a phrasal verb, it's an idiom. But it's commonly used in this context, and it means to say or do things that make it obvious you're romantically interested.

So if you keep checking someone out, that's a way you make it obvious. Let's review the difference between check someone out and hit on someone. When you check someone out, you're observing. You're looking at it, but you're not interacting, acting. You're not talking to them. When you hit on someone, you're interacting. You're probably talking or even touching. In both cases, though, you're romantically interested. Now let's talk about to set someone up with someone. This means to arrange a date between two people. So you act as the matchmaker.

You might say my friend set me up with her coworker and we actually hit it off. Or maybe you should let me set you up with someone You've been single for two years. Is Clarissa still trying to set me up with her? But you reply back and say there's no way I'm going on a blind date. Do you know what a blind date is? This is a date between two people who have never met each other before in person. Hopefully you don't have to use the phrasal verb to stand someone up, because this means to fail to show up for a date without telling the other person it's a terrible thing.

So you ask your friend how was your date with Brad, and then your friend replies. You won't believe it. He stood me up. Which means your friend was waiting at the cafe or the bar or the movies alone, and Brad never came. Or maybe you say to someone, I know you're nervous about the blind date, but you can't just stand him up. That's cruel. Maybe your friend was saying, I'm just not going to go, which would be cruel. You can't just stay him up. Now let's review to go out with someone. And this has two different meanings. It can mean simply to go on a date with someone. So maybe you say, sorry, I can't hang out tonight. I'm going out with Brad.

Maybe you're giving him a second chance even though he stood you up. I'm going out with Brad. Yeah, I'm going out with Sam. This means you're going on a date with Brad. But keep in mind, this phrasal verb can be used in a non romantic context. So I could say Denise and I are going out tonight. Do you want to join us? So this is just friends going out. Now the context will usually make it obvious if it's a date or just friends, but if it's unclear you can ask for clarification. So maybe your friend says sorry I can't hang

out tonight, I'm going out with Brad. Now how would a native clarify if this was just a friendship or a romantic outing? Now a native would say you mean on a date or something that is very native is you mean out, out, you're going out with Brad. But that one you may not feel comfortable using. Now the other meaning of to go out with someone means to be in a romantic relationship. So for example, how long have you and your girlfriend been going out? Now the action started in the past and continues until now, which is why is the present perfect continuous And you're asking how long have you been together romantically? So you can say we've been going out for a few weeks now. It's still pretty casual.

Let's review to hit it off with someone. I already used this in one of our examples. This means to immediately like someone and get along very well when you first meet. So you might say we went out last night and hit it off immediately. Or maybe you say to your friend, you went out with Brad last night, right? Did you hit it off? Now this is used idiomatically, so it's always hit it off. You need that. It's in there. This can also be used in a non romantic context. The new manager and I hit it off immediately.

Let's review to fall for someone. If you fall for someone, this means you start developing strong romantic feelings for that person. So you might say, we started going out a few weeks ago and I think I'm already falling for him, which means you feel very strong emotions for that person, maybe even love. You might use this as advice and say be careful, you don't want to fall for a married guy. And a lot of people say I wasn't looking for anything serious but I couldn't help falling for her. This means you wanted to keep it casual, but you developed strong feelings for her. Oh my God, you're falling for her now.

Hopefully you don't do this. To lead someone on this is to make someone believe you're romantically interested when you're not. Now to be fair, often this can be accidental. You don't mean to do this. The other person just interprets you laughing as their jokes as you're interested romantically when you're not. You just laugh at people's jokes, but this is often used in a sad way. I totally fell for him, but he was just leading me on.

He made it seem like he was really interested in me when he wasn't. Or you might say, I thought we really hit it off. I don't know what happened. And then your friend says she shouldn't have let you on. So notice that irregular past lead LED. Let's review To break up with someone, this means to end a romantic relationship. So not a friendship, a romantic relationship. So maybe you run into a friend you haven't seen in a long time and you know their girlfriend is Vanessa. So you say how is Vanessa doing? But then your friend says, actually, we broke up. So you can reply and say, oh, I'm so sorry to hear that. Or you might confide in another friend. I think Sarah's going to break up with me.

She hasn't been returning my texts. Let's review the sentence structure. Sarah broke up with Dan. Notice this is in the past. Simple. This means Sarah ended the relationship. It was her decision. Dan broke up with Sarah, so Dan ended the relationship. Now you could also say Dan and Sarah broke up. So here there's no whiz because the two people are already mentioned. Dan and Sarah broke up. They broke up. In this case, it's unknown who ended the relationship, but it is over. Let's review. To cheat on someone the topic of many movies, books, TV shows and real life situations.

This is to have a romantic relationship with someone else while you're already in a relationship. So maybe you asked, do you know why Dan and Sarah broke up? They seem so happy. Apparently she cheated on him with her ex. So you cheat on someone with someone else. She cheated on him. Or you might confide in a friend. I think Brent's cheating on me. So he's doing the action now. I think Brent's cheating on me. He's been acting really weird lately. Or your friend confides in you. I kissed that girl that was hitting on me at the bar. And then you say, how could you,

how could you cheat on Celine and Celine's your girlfriend or wife? Now let's move on to something perhaps more positive, to get back together with someone. This means to resume a romantic relationship after breaking up. So maybe you say, I saw Dan and Sarah together at a restaurant. I thought they broke up. They did, but they got back together. So remember when you used to get back together, they had to originally be together and then they separate and then they return. She won the award and they got back together.

Or you might ask a friend, do you think you and Vanessa will get back together? Or you could say, do you think you'll get back together with Vanessa? And you might say, no, it's definitely over. She made that very clear. So if you add that, you know, it's Vanessa's decision to not get back together. Or you might say, actually, she texted me last week. So who knows, maybe we will get back together now. If you break up and don't get back together, you'll use this phrasal verb to get over someone. This means to recover emotionally after a breakup. So you might say it took her months to get over Dan after they broke up.

They'll get over her. Or maybe you say I thought I was over him but seeing him again made me realize I still have feelings for him so I still like him or even love him. Now notice I used two different structures to be over. This means you've recovered. You don't have emotional feelings for that person to get over. You're recovering. You're in the process of ending those feelings. A similar phrasal verb is to move on. You move on from someone or something. This also means to emotionally recover and start focusing on a new relationship or life situation. So to get over simply means stop thinking about that person.

But to move on means stop thinking about that person and start thinking about someone else, or start a new hobby or start traveling or whatever you want. You could say it's been 2 years since Denise left, which means she ended the relationship. You need to move on. Or you could say you need to move on from Denise because you move on from someone or something. You need to move on from Denise. It's been 2 years, you need to move on. Eh? But you could say I know, but I'm not over her yet. Which means you still have strong feelings for Denise. Let's review to settle down.

This is a positive phrasal verb. Perhaps depending on your goals, this means to start living a stable life, often by committing to a long term relationship. So you might say, after years of dating, he finally decided to settle down. Which means he's going to commit to one woman. Maybe they will buy a house. Maybe they will have kids and a dog and he will have a steady job and that is his comfortable, quiet life. Now, some people may not want what I just described. So that person can say, I'm sorry, I really love spending time with you, but I'm not ready to settle down yet. I'm not ready to live that quiet, comfortable life, but I'm not ready to settle down yet.

Mom. Now maybe the person asks, are you breaking up with me? And they say, no, I'm not breaking up with you. No, but I don't want to lead you on. I don't want you to think that us spending time together is going to end in a marriage proposal. So now you have many phrasal verbs you can use, some positive, many sound more negative. But hey, that's life, relationships, love. It's a messy business. And you will see and hear all of these phrasal verbs on TV, movies, books, and in three day life. Do you want me to keep helping you with phrasal verbs? If you do put yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, put, yes, yes, yes, yes in the comments.

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