How to Set Strong Boundaries and Detach from Toxic Relationships

Do you feel like people walk all over you? Do you feel like anytime you are nice to people or you try to people please, somehow people just disrespect you even more? Are you tired of this behavior? Well, you're at the right video because in this video I will explain to you how you need to have very strong boundaries if you are an empath or people pleaser and also how you need to detach from people especially toxic relationship, toxic friends, work, whatever. Let's take a toxic relationship for example. Anytime that person does something to you and whatever they do, you just stay. You're like, "Okay, whatever. We'll work through it." What do you think that person is going to do? They're not going

to get better. Why? Because they never got a consequence for their action. Like their life never changed or you never stopped talking to them. You never set up any boundaries. So why would they change? Their life is still the same no matter what they do. Even if we look at children for example, if my child does something wrong, there's going to be a consequence because then my child understands that was wrong and this is going to happen if they do that again. The same thing should be with adults and humans. You should let them know like, hey, listen, I am not your punching bag. If you do this to me or if you cross this boundary, I will remove complete access to me. Hi guys, my name is and welcome back to my channel. Okay,

let's get into it. First things first, first thing you should think to yourself is what is your end goal? What are you trying to achieve here? Look, for example, with a toxic relationship that you cannot let go of. Okay? So, you're going to text them again. You're going to invite them back into your life after they did you wrong. And then what? Like, okay, your ego is going to be stroked a little bit and you're going to feel a little better about yourself, but in the future, do you think that person is your ideal person? Genuinely ask yourself like, what are you really doing here? Because at the end of the day, you are the one pouring in all of your energy. You are the one just wasting

your time. And every single time a woman has thought or a man has thought like, "Oh my god, I can change this person." They don't change because first of all, there's no consequence. And second of all, no one can change anyone. They should do that by themselves and it should come from them and not from you forcing something upon someone that doesn't want to change. Another thing is the person that is not afraid to walk away holds all the power. A person that is not afraid to eat alone. A person that is not afraid to lose that job, lose that friendship, lose that partner is the one that is most powerful because they are not attached to another human being. That other human being doesn't

give them everything that they need because they know that they are complete by themselves. So a person like that just thinks like if this person doesn't add to my happiness or if this job doesn't add to my happiness then I will find something else or I will have something better like this is not the best that I can get. And I think a lot of people that are in the mindset of they're so afraid to leave just dilute themselves into thinking that they will never get anything better. And that is what the person that you're with wants you to think. Cuz you will notice like for example in a lot of toxic relationship these people thrive on the fact that they make you insecure. And what happens now is they're

constantly making you insecure. They're constantly doing things to you and they're crossing your boundaries constantly. And because you're allowing them, you start thinking to yourself, "This is the best that I can get." because that becomes your whole reality is someone that is constantly treating you badly. So, you can't even see a greater future for yourself. But honey, I'm here to tell you there's people being treated very well. No, not everyone cheats on everyone, literally people that are loyal to each other. There's people that love their partners so much. There's people that are doing a job that they love and you can have that too. The minute you start thinking like, "This is not what I deserve. I deserve so much better than this. I deserve to

be treated like a queen because you are divine. You are so beautiful and you're literally a miracle. A miracle walking on this earth. Treat yourself as a miracle. Stop letting these people and these abusers keep you small cuz that's where they want you. They know that once you realize your potential, they know that once you wake up to your power that it's over for everyone. All those friends that hate you, all those people that bully you, all those toxic relationships, they do not want you to grow. As humans, we have a great capacity to feel deeply and to find ways to move on, but to keep on living at the same time. With loss, we don't just miss people, but we miss how easy it felt to

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Another thing is your emotions are not that reliable, especially when you're in a toxic situation or a toxic relationship. What happens is you will start acting like an addict. A toxic relationship is even more addictive than a healthy one because a toxic one gives you dopamine spikes and then down and it's constantly like that. So your body and your brain will start to crave that person because anytime you guys fight then you make up and it gives you that adrenaline and dopamine spike. So what in that moment you should think is when you're missing that person, you're not missing that person. You're behaving like an addict right now and you should tell yourself that and you will

literally need to withdraw from that situation like an addict which is go cold turkey. You cut this out. Also realize that why did it end. If your relationship was that great, if that person was that good, why did it end? Why did you not want to be there anymore? And remind yourself of that. Like the same way addicts should remind themselves of how shitty they feel when they indulge in an addiction is you should remind yourself how shitty that person makes you feel, how shitty that friend makes you feel, or how shitty that job makes you feel. Another thing is stop explaining yourself. You do not owe an explanation to someone that did you dirty. You shouldn't expect anything

from you. You shouldn't explain why you left, whatever. Like if someone has done you dirty and they knew that would hurt you, that's it. You don't even need closure. you walk away in silence because anytime you will start to argue with them and explain and this and that, it shows that you can still be manipulated there because that other person is going to be like, "Oh, but I didn't mean it like that and I think you're overreacting and starting to gaslight you." So, you start to question yourself. See, you see the pattern of this person constantly, you have this reality and this person is constantly twisting your reality. So, at some point, you're going to be like, "Am I

crazy? Am I even able to trust myself? So in the moment when you make a decision, when you know that something hurt you, stick to that decision and stick with it with pride. Yeah, you walked away and you know why you walked away. No one lives in your shoes. No one has lived the life that you lived. You know what you went through. You know how it felt. So you are entitled to do what you think is best for you. Also giving them any type of reaction or oh I'm going to make them jealous with posting this, posting that. It's like, yeah, you're just constantly showing this person that you still care. Stop. Like, literally hold a funeral in your head for this person. Like, this person

doesn't exist anymore. Just remove all of your energy, honey. Oh my god, you have put so much energy into that other person, into that toxic situation that you gave all of your power away. But it's not a bad thing because you can still get all of that power back. like genuinely cut the cords with that person cuz they're feeding off of you. You know, it's even crazy. I saw this one girl online and she said like when she did a court cutting with her ex, a week later they passed away. These things are very spiritual cuz a lot of people that are toxic and constantly trying to get a reaction out of you are draining you of your energy, are draining you of your life force. You are not dealing with

just human beings. Sometimes this these things are very spiritual. Another thing is become completely indifferent. You don't care. You just don't care whether this person likes you, whether they hate you, should do absolutely nothing to you. You think that whatever happens, but you're not trying to control it anymore. And you're just not pouring your energy into it anymore. Why? Because you need to pour that energy back into yourself. You need to come home back to yourself. You see, I really believe that toxic relationships are meant to bring you back home to yourself because they open your eyes

like nothing else. If you really want a spiritual awakening in life, you probably will go through one of the worst times of your life first. But after that, you will realize, wow, this is what I don't ever want to experience again. And you have clear boundaries after that. Another thing is just build a life full of success for yourself. Oh my god. All of this energy that you have right now that you poured into this person, pour it back into yourself, go to the gym, go out with your friends, do a lot of self-care, watch motivational videos. Like, do anything that uplifts you, that makes you feel good about yourself, because finally, it's your time to shine. Don't be afraid to shine.

It's okay to come back. These people might have treated you like you're nothing and like you're worthless. But that should not define you. However someone treats you or whatever someone says about you, that is not your reality though. Whenever you talk to yourself, whenever you are with yourself, you uplift yourself. You know that you can still rebuild yourself back up again and again. It doesn't mean that oh this happened and that's it. You're done for life. No, you still have a whole life ahead of you. You can choose today like, "Oh my god, I'm so done with this. This is not what I deserve." And whatever doesn't align with your highest vision for yourself, you don't allow back into

your life cuz honey, you hold the key. If you open that door for someone to come in and hurt you again and again, then that's on you cuz you're enabling that behavior. But if you just close that door and you're like, you know what, go heal, heal, fix yourself, and you just focus on you, you will see your reality will completely start to shift. Also, if you're constantly giving these people chances in your life, what you're showing God and the universe is that this is what you're okay with. You don't want anything else. So, what happens is your life just keeps being toxic, like draining, and these toxic people bring very bad situations into your life. Once you are like, I am done with this for

good. I don't want to experience this again. You will see how quickly your life will start to shift. You will meet people that are now on the vibration of loyalty, selfrespect because you are showing God and you are showing the universe that this is what you want in life and that this is what you deserve. Let go of the potential outcome that you had in your head. See, we often defend toxic relationship or toxic situations because we're not defending them. We're defending ourselves because we put so much energy into them. We put so much time into them. So in our head we try to rationalize that somehow this was going to be a good outcome or somehow you still have hope that this person will

change and then all of your energy was not wasted or for nothing. But honey, I need you to let go of that cuz the potential that you see in others is not real. It's just what you think that you would do in their position. But they don't think that. They're just thinking my life is good. This person will stay regardless. So I'm going to continue how I am. So when you realize like you know what I did put a lot of time into you. I did put a lot of effort, but right now I can stop. When you stop now, when you stop today, that's the best decision you can make because there's women that have spent 10 years, 25 years trying to change their partner has never happened. But any day that you think enough is

enough, you will completely shift your reality. Also, stop taking their lack of love personal. It's not about you. When you are genuinely good to a person and they have faked their love with you or whatever, they have a lot of insecurities. These people have really bad beliefs. They have lack of morals and standards regardless. And these people are not going to be good with the next person either. Their behavior they take into their next relationship. So you shouldn't sit there and think like, "Oh, this was about me." No, this person has a pattern. They're going to repeat it with the next one. And you should just get out when you can. Like literally think to yourself, thank God

this person got revealed to me and I can leave. Also just come to terms with the fact that you don't own anyone and we don't own anything. Like any material thing we have any even your own children, you will not take them when you leave this earth. You will leave this earth alone. So when you know that then it's very obvious that life is going to teach you detachment. You're going to many times have to detach from people from situations again and again because why would you be attached to earth when that is not your home because no one should be your whole world. When that person leaves you are left with nothing then you should be your own world cuz whatever you are looking for

is already within you. The magic you're looking for, the love you're looking for, the miracles you're looking for, abundance you're looking for is within you. You are that person. And if you didn't have that inside of you, your soul wouldn't look for it or crave for it. So when you think like that, you think like, you know what, instead of me constantly trying to chase love from this person, why don't I become love? Why don't I become loving to my friends and family to people outside and you will see that love will attract back to you when you give out the love that you have. But stop pouring it into empty cups and expecting these empty cups to

fill you up. They're empty. they don't have anything. It's like putting it in a drainage. It's going nowhere. Instead, you could fill people up that genuinely fill you back and that will love you for who you are. And you will understand that you are lovable and you are good enough. Also, just understand they were not a heartbreak. They were a lesson. You needed that lesson to grow. I saw this video and it said basically that an empath right before they quantum leap, they need to be with a narcissist and basically slay that dragon. So, it's like your last level before you go into the reality that you're meant to be. And I can see that honestly because I feel like people that are really not good to

you teach you a lot of things in life and they make you very strong. You don't become strong from good times and whatever. You've become strong because you went through bad times and so you are the strong person now that can handle a lot more things in life. So really see the blessings in that and be like okay wow I did learn a lot but then take your lessons and move on to the next level like quantum leap. Don't stay there with them because they will honestly never change. Like I saw even this video about like narcissistic abuse and people like that and this psychiatrist was talking about how like they will never change because they don't see why they should change. So yeah, you can't change them. They are

not going to get better. Um my mom for 25 years tried to change my dad. He never changed. He was promising her the world and whatever and all these things and she stayed and nothing was ever true. So honestly look at people's actions. What are they saying to you? Shouldn't even matter. Talk is free. Look at their actions. Is their words being backed by their actions? No. Then why are you there? They're playing with you. They're playing with your mind. It's actually psychologically very dangerous for you to stay with these people because they're constantly lying to you. So for you, you're like, "What is real and what is not real?" And you're constantly questioning that to a point where you start even questioning

your own thoughts. you start questioning your own behavior and you start literally going a little insane. So, you should be very, very careful because these people will drive you to insanity. And it's not a joke. And I promise you, once you let go of them, you're going to think to yourself, why was I even with this person? Like, you're going to literally be like, "Oh my god, like was I under a spell or something? Did this person do like magic on me?" cuz you're like, "No way I tolerated this or no way I was with this person." Then you realize how ordinary they actually are. But you need to cut the cords. Cut it completely. Cut them off. They don't exist anymore. That's it. And honey, I'm

just telling you, get ready cuz you are going to be the baddest version of yourself. Like when you let go of someone like that, you will see all of a sudden all of your opportunities will start coming in. You become more beautiful. you start glowing again. Like, have you guys seen those videos of these women that were in toxic relationships and the way they used to look and then after have glow back in their face, they look happier. So, once you let go of someone that is not good for you, you will see you're going to start shining, honey. And you deserve to shine. Stop with the self- abuse. Stop enabling their behavior. They will also never learn if you don't give them consequences. The

most loving thing you can do is let them go. Anyways guys, I love you so much and yeah, I hope you guys learned something from this video and just know that you are loved. You are amazing and yeah, I love you. In my bag.