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I've got some good news and um it's a little complicated but I would love to explain it to you I my name is Dustin by the way uh I have a YouTube channel called smarter every day and this is physics girl this is Diana's Channel and uh recently I went to visit Diana and I did this for many reasons and I intended on doing it in secret and not telling anyone I was doing it because Diana and I are friends in real life so um just a little bit of background way back in the day I had some work out in Hawaii I went and visited Diana's dad just me visiting her dad right and uh Diana gave a talk in Vanderbilt I went and saw Diana gave a talk and there's some things you just don't put on the internet because you're actual friends
and that's that's kind of where I'm at with Diana if you're aware uh Diana's ill she uh got long covid not long after her wedding and now she has a variety of diagnoses and it's a lot of letters that I don't understand but um what I do know is that my friend Diana she called me a while back and she had a question and this was not long after she had gotten sick and I could tell that she was struggling with something she said hey Des I might have a hard time remembering this conversation because of all these reasons and I was like no problem Diana you're Diana I'm Destin we're buddies I love you so of course it doesn't matter just whatever I'm here with you no matter what slowly Diana's health started to decline and as I watched everything
unfold over social media like most of you did I became worried about my friend and I was concerned and specifically I was concerned that she seemed to be laying in the bed a lot and I was concerned that she was becoming weak and I didn't understand the situation uh if you've ever done caretaking in your family it's a big deal we've had some caretaking situations in our family and one of the biggest things you want to do is make sure that people are trying to get stronger and doing all the things necessary to get stronger and so over social media it's been unclear to me what's going on with Diana's health and so I talked to my wife Tara and I said I really want to go see Diana I want to sit in the room with her and hold her
hand and she said absolutely and so um I texted Diana and tried to figure out what made sense for her and Diana put me in touch with her husband Kyle now I've met Kyle once and we didn't know each other that well but I started talking to Kyle and I said hey do you think this is something that's possible and U he welcomed it and we figured it out and it was a little dicey because I didn't know if Diana would be up for a visitor on the day that I arrived where she lives and uh we just said you know what we're going to roll the dice we're going to play it by ear and see what happens and so sure enough I arrived and I asked Kyle what do you think man he's like come on and so I didn't know what to
expect but what I saw when I walked in their place encouraged me and it encouraged me for many reasons first of all I saw Kyle in the living room I'll call it out front and he was clearly tired clearly uh that unmistakable uh what's the word I mean just like determination of a caretaker that I've seen before on my own family members and I saw this person I was like Kyle like I'm so impressed by you're like this is just meeting Kyle in the situation in situ was encouraging and I started talking to him about what was going on and he was uh telling me about all the great things going on uh in Diana's life he was telling me about the challenges as well and then somewhere along the conversation he said oh I've got to get up it's time to
cook and Kyle gets up and he goes over and there's just Stacks and stacks of papers and he's got check checklists Kyle's an engineer he's got checklists of how he keeps up with Diana's day and how he has a plan to help her get better and he's working the plan and just seeing that seeing those physical pieces of paper with checklists and boxes and like he was engineering everything he could do for his spouse's well-being and care and that encouraged me and we still didn't know if I was going to get to go to the back room and see Diana or not but just seeing in his element and I actually filmed a little bit of Kyle cooking and uh I thought you might want to see that so what is this so this is chia
seeds soaked in water uhhuh um and then I got uh coconut milk and I'll put in some hemp seeds as well and just blend that together um so she's basically on a the way we described is like a low histamine keto diet so high fat high protein low carb whole food whatever and that's basically you know what she eats so this thing is obviously a lot of calories a lot of fat that's good proteins but it tastes like hardboard oh wow look chunky and the seeds are all chopped up so e are on the digestion sweet so what struck me about this is Kyle was smiling in a very difficult situ ation he was working he was loving Diana in a very real way a very physical tangible way and he was smiling what'd you make Chef
Kyle just uh finishing up the squash little bit hard still a few more minutes but they're coming together nicely nice and brown well done the amount of strength that I saw on his face was incredible so I was encouraged by that and so uh he went back and he did some things with Diana for a while and at some point I went to the restroom and uh while we were waiting and I was I'll just say this because uh I think you should know I went to the restroom and I thought to myself this is a very difficult caregiving situation like this is a difficult place like the restroom is not big enough it's just not big enough and I just thought that I filed that away and I was like okay I'm just going to
think about that and then I went back and I sat down and um I just waited and then Kyle comes out and he with a smile on his face he goes good news it looks like you're going to be able to see her today and I was so excited right and so uh we talked for a little while and then the time came and then I walked in when Kyle invited me in and there's Diana she's uh laying in the bed and she's sitting up a little bit and uh there's a bed beside Diana and I walk in and I said hey Diana she said hey Des and it was a moment Like It uh I'm getting emotional just talking about but it was great so uh two old friends getting to see each other and um I walked up to the bed and here's Diana lying down a bed between me and her I
said Diana I don't know how to uh how to sit with you what would you like me to do and she said crawl up here in this bed and lay down beside me I said great so I did and uh I was trying to get comfortable so I could you know see Diana and we figured it out I got to where I could sit there and Kyle sitting at the foot of the bed and we had a great visit it was amazing we laughed we smiled I got to hold Diana's hand and uh I asked her if that was okay if I hold your hand she said please do and so I held her hand and gently just rubbed the back of her hand as we talked and I said Diana you set the pace here um and she's like yeah so we had a good conversation and um at some point in the
conversation Diana looked at me and she goes dtin I think I'm G to take a rest from talking for a minute and she patted the back of my hand and I said okay I said I'll just be right here and so she rested and I just sat there and uh rubbed her hand and let her rest and Kyle talked a little bit so Kyle and I had a conversation while she was resting and then she got her strength back she goes okay I'm ready to talk again she we had another conversation one thing I want you to know that Diana said that I think is important for you to know is Diana is supported via patreon and um she was asking me about that I support Diana on patreon and have for a long time even before this if I recall and uh as I was sitting there
talking to her she said I'm concerned about patreon and I was like what are you concerned about she said I can't make videos like you see the situation I'm in I was like Diana and so I did something and I hope this is okay with you I spoke on behalf of all patrons of physics girl I said Diana I'm going to speak on behalf of all the patrons right now and I'm going to tell you this your job is not to make videos like I am not supporting you on patreon for the videos that you make it's not transactional your job is to get better and as I said that a calmness came over her face it was like an anxiety was released and I was looking out of the corner of my eye and Kyle was nodding
his head because he knew that this was a source of anxiety for uh dianaa and I said your job is to get better that's it you your full-time job is that curve of Health we want the first derivative to be positive and so that's the that's your job and um so I spoke on your behalf I hope that's okay and uh Diana actually wanted me to tell you that uh after I left and they asked me to make this video she said she wanted you if you support on patreon I think it's patreon.com physicsgirl she wanted me to tell you that if this isn't what you signed up for then thank you so much for the support you've given her but uh she totally understands if this isn't something you're willing to support but
I told her job is to get better so anyway we had a lot of really good conversations and there was something that happened that I thought was beautiful and I want to tell you about it when I was with Kyle and Diana was in the other room I got to talk to Kyle about Diana nothing but positive things to say about her attitude he was giving her agency over everything Diana made the decisions she called the shots whether or not Dum came in or not Kyle is 100% for Diana that's what he's doing it's a deep love and I was impressed by it was a professional like I'm here for the Long Haul kind of love and it was amazing professional might not be the word but you know what I'm trying to say likewise when I was with Diana and Kyle was in the other
room cooking some squash and getting some carrots ready I got to talk to Diana about Kyle and there was a deep love and appreciation for who he was as a person and I saw something I saw a deepness of their love and their care for each other that was unlike things I see for people at this stage in life typically and I loved it and it was beautiful and it's good news I saw like you know I'm a Christian I saw what I call the fruits of the spirit love joy peace patience kindness goodness faithfulness gentleness and self-control I saw all of those things in that tiny apartment and I loved it and it was beautiful um I got to say some really meaningful things to Diana I got to tell her a lot of stuff about me and her and Kyle's
right there so it was just really nice and before I left the room it was clear she was getting tired I said Diana would it be okay like there's a thing we do in my family when someone's hurting we go to them we hold their hand and we pray can I do that she said I'd love that so we did that together it was great um I love Diana I love Kyle um they're in the thick of it right now they're fighting really hard and um it's it's good news they're doing it right they're doing it well and uh I am encouraged by what I see in Diana's husband Kyle he's a strong man and he's he's leading her through a very difficult time I'm encouraged by what I see in Diana's heart we laughed um I told her a story of something that happened to me recently
and we belly laughed and I can't tell you what that did for my heart to hear Dian a cow belly laugh but it was great um it's just beautiful it's beautiful to see that before I went I was unsure I didn't know what the situation was I didn't know if Diana was getting the care she needed I didn't know if she was making efforts to get stronger I didn't know if she was trying really hard when I went I was encouraged I saw all those things I saw Diana was determined to make it through this difficult time I saw a supportive spouse that would literally give up everything in his life to make sure that she's successful in her um her journey through this I was encouraged and it's good news and I wanted you to know that I also wanted you to know that
um I told Diana and Kyle I said hey I think you should consider getting a different place that's something that's customizable for your specific needs at this moment in time and uh I think it would be appropriate to use patreon funds to do that so I said that I want you to know I said that so I think they need a place that's bigger than what they have right now um that's better set up for their needs and they can customize it for exactly what she needs and so I said that so that's the thing that's the update I want you to know that uh they're in good spirits uh it's an unimaginable situation but they're trending in the right direction there's crashes um Kyle's told me about
a crash since I've been there to visit and um all those things and so I just want to give you the update that I told Diana that we that support on patreon at patreon.com physicsgirl her job is to get better and we want them to focus on that it's not about videos she can do away with any anxiety associated with that because this is not transactional we just love Diana and that's what we're doing right now so anyway I just wanted to give you that update one more thing uh I made a specific goal to not go out there and take any or anything of us but as I left and I'm leaving and I'm uh hugging Kyle and walking out the door Diana sent a text to Kyle and said stop we have to take a selfie together and so went back in the room
and uh Diana made us take a selfie and it was fun so anyway that's it love all of you Diana sends her love to all of you as well hyper impressed with Kyle and uh I'm encouraged and I want you to be encouraged too so anyway the thing you can do if you want to support them right now is support a patreon and there'll be a link down in the video description I'm assuming uh I'm assuming Levi will edit this up and get it to a way that you can easily see the link and go support them there that's it I'm Destin and this is Diana's Channel physics girl and uh good news have a good one bye
